I’m a glass half empty kinda guy

I'm a glass half empty kinda guy | Joseph BurrowsI’m not going to beat around the bush here. I’m a negative person. I’m a glass half empty kinda guy, and I think it’s time for me to properly embrace it.

I was sat blogging away last week, but it just wasn’t clicking for me. That’s when I read through and realised that I’d basically written some total dross. I’d spent so long trying to justify myself and my problems, and gloss over them, that I’d basically just waffled myself into oblivion.

Why?

Because I didn’t want to be negative. I didn’t want to get people down. I was so concerned with appearing a certain way for the sake of others that I began to edit and limit myself, and no one should have to do that.

I’m not going to lie, it caused a mini existential crisis at 3pm in the afternoon. But hey, that’s normal, right?!

For me, I’ve always worn my pessimism as a bit of a security blanket. If I expect the worst in everyone and everything, things can only be a pleasant surprise, right? It might not be everyone’s ideal approach to life, but it’s what works for me.

I feel like there’s an expectation in life to always be positive and smiley and sprinkle good vibes around like glitter. It’s almost like you have a responsibility to be cheerful and happy for the benefit of everyone else. Whilst some people are actually like that (mega props to these people), not everyone is. I think it’s unpractical, and quite frankly, it’s an unhealthy expectation that needs to change.

People approach life and work through problems in different ways, and we have to be accepting of that. As long as people can get through things in a way that works for them, there shouldn’t be an issue.

Some people are glass half full kind of people. Some people see themselves as more glass half empty. Both are great – I just happen to be the latter. And that’s okay.

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  • I must admit, I’ve always been an optimistic person. I always look on the bright side and try to find the positive in even the worse situations. Sometimes, yes, I find myself being disappointed but most of the time, I’m comforted knowing that there’s always a silver lining.

  • Ayre

    I expect the worst as well, but then I just turned into someone who can’t see the positive in life… I definitely have a lot more work to do 🙂

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  • You make such a good point about expectations. I often feel that same pressure to be happy or at least appear so for the sake of others, and sometimes that’s just not realistic or healthy. I do find that a bit of that expectation can be a good thing, because the “fake it til you make it” approach to a good mood often works to get me out of a slump, but that’s only helpful to an extent. If you feel like you have to hide your personality or your true self for the sake of other people, that’s a different story.

    I’ve noticed that I feel a much greater expectation to appear happy and cheerful around people who I’m not as close with. With my family and close friends I feel free to share my true mood and talk about things a bit more negatively if that’s how I’m feeling, but with acquaintances or people who I would consider not as close friends it’s harder for me to feel comfortable sharing more negative things because I don’t know how they will react. It’s especially hard for me to judge when something negative might not to taken well by the other person because I grew up in a country where people share personal things freely even with casual acquaintances (the US) but now live in a country where that’s not nearly as common (Germany).

  • Abigail Huggan

    I’m totally on the same level as you! I have always been more of a pessimist than an optimist and I’m totally OK with that. I always prefer to be prepared for the worst because like you said then if things turn out better than you thought you can be surprised rather than being really positive about it and it not turning out the way you hoped and it being a harsh reality. Not that I think people shouldn’t be an optimist, Im just more of pessimist.

    Abbie
    overpeachchic.com

  • Being a glass half empty kinda person is just as ok as being a glass half full kinda person because lets face it, life would be dull if we were all the same!

    Emma | HarmonyBlaze.co.uk

  • AboutKari (Karolina)

    I switch between half empty and half full. I just learned to have extremely low expectations of everything and everyone. And that works for me. And if someone doesn’t like my approach then they know where the door, or unsubscribe button is 🙂

  • Oh my god, yes! So glad someone finally said this. I am DEFINITELY a glass half empty kinda gal, and I’ve ALWAYS said to people that if I always expect the worst, I’m unlikely to be disappointed, only pleasantly surprised. People act like I’m contagious or something, when I say I’m pessimistic by nature. But so what? It works for me, so what’s so wrong about it?! x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x